1.ATTRACTION
There must be attraction between both parties. Never start a relationship with someone you are not physically attracted to. God will not force anybody on you. More over you will be doing your self a big favour if you get committed to someone you are attracted to so that your eyes can be on her/him only. Discover the things you admire about your partner. At this particular stage you feel your partner is right and every other person is wrong. If you are writing an examination at this time, when you open your books to read you see his/her face. It happened to me! My fiancé proposed me in 2009 when I was doing my second year last term exams. Thank God I didn't fail......You need to be careful at this time making sure your relationship with God is intact so that you can still hear Him speak to you because the relationship can not thrive on attraction alone, it must move to the next stage. What is it?
There must be attraction between both parties. Never start a relationship with someone you are not physically attracted to. God will not force anybody on you. More over you will be doing your self a big favour if you get committed to someone you are attracted to so that your eyes can be on her/him only. Discover the things you admire about your partner. At this particular stage you feel your partner is right and every other person is wrong. If you are writing an examination at this time, when you open your books to read you see his/her face. It happened to me! My fiancé proposed me in 2009 when I was doing my second year last term exams. Thank God I didn't fail......You need to be careful at this time making sure your relationship with God is intact so that you can still hear Him speak to you because the relationship can not thrive on attraction alone, it must move to the next stage. What is it?
Gospel Singers - Rose Mushi and Shaboka Jr
2.DISTURBANCE
This is the stage when the parties begin to realize their differences and see in other people qualities they admire. If their love is not genuine, the relationship is certain to collapse here. The guy begins to reason properly and the girl begins to get hurt easily. He starts complaining that she has changed and vice versa, but in reality none has changed, they just suddenly start seeing what they refused to see before. Love blinded them initially , but the eyes begin to open! With us at this particular time we had a number of breakups of which we would still get back after some time.
3.REPULSION
A lot of relationships break up here. The differences between the lady and the guy become glaring and obvious. Differences in attitude, characters, and mannerism may result in misunderstanding. Immaturity and selfishness may result in break-ups. It would take two people love and peace of God guarding their hearts to go through this stage successfully. If you love is based in conviction which is not grounded and really founded in God you wont stand this stage.
2.DISTURBANCE
This is the stage when the parties begin to realize their differences and see in other people qualities they admire. If their love is not genuine, the relationship is certain to collapse here. The guy begins to reason properly and the girl begins to get hurt easily. He starts complaining that she has changed and vice versa, but in reality none has changed, they just suddenly start seeing what they refused to see before. Love blinded them initially , but the eyes begin to open! With us at this particular time we had a number of breakups of which we would still get back after some time.
3.REPULSION
A lot of relationships break up here. The differences between the lady and the guy become glaring and obvious. Differences in attitude, characters, and mannerism may result in misunderstanding. Immaturity and selfishness may result in break-ups. It would take two people love and peace of God guarding their hearts to go through this stage successfully. If you love is based in conviction which is not grounded and really founded in God you wont stand this stage.
4.ENDURANCE
Only relationships built on the solid foundation of God's word can endure this phase. Here it seems that all you have in common apart from God are just differences, differences and differences. At this stage quarrels seems to be the order of the day. The knowledge of the basic differences between a man and a woman, constant prayers offered for the relationship and the presence of good mentors over the relationship are very helpful to avoid break up here. This is the stage you often reach the conclusion that the relationship cannot work. When I got to this stage I wanted it over for good but every time we decided to end it up we always came back. He would insist on talking face to face and praying together and at the end we would agree to embrace God's plan instead of being selfish and egotistical. This is a very critical stage, any relationship that goes through this stage successfully will be established.
5.ENJOYMENT
After endurance comes enjoyment. Here you realise the rewards and blessings of relationships. Pastor Tunde of Kisses and Hugs says the Biblical truth of two being able to chase ten thousand while one could only chase one thousand becomes a physical reality in this stage. Here the blessings are seen as a blessing and not a challenge. The two enjoy their relationship and they align their visions, they now understand each other. They forgive easily and they stop getting hurt at everything as they decide to forge ahead in God.
The presence of good mentors and exposure to knowledge often helps to minimise issues in these stages.
We pray for you today, that whichever stage you find yourself, The wisdom of God will be available for you in Jesus name!
— with Nehemia Naume Tlhome Shika and Nickodemus Shaboka Jr..
Only relationships built on the solid foundation of God's word can endure this phase. Here it seems that all you have in common apart from God are just differences, differences and differences. At this stage quarrels seems to be the order of the day. The knowledge of the basic differences between a man and a woman, constant prayers offered for the relationship and the presence of good mentors over the relationship are very helpful to avoid break up here. This is the stage you often reach the conclusion that the relationship cannot work. When I got to this stage I wanted it over for good but every time we decided to end it up we always came back. He would insist on talking face to face and praying together and at the end we would agree to embrace God's plan instead of being selfish and egotistical. This is a very critical stage, any relationship that goes through this stage successfully will be established.
5.ENJOYMENT
After endurance comes enjoyment. Here you realise the rewards and blessings of relationships. Pastor Tunde of Kisses and Hugs says the Biblical truth of two being able to chase ten thousand while one could only chase one thousand becomes a physical reality in this stage. Here the blessings are seen as a blessing and not a challenge. The two enjoy their relationship and they align their visions, they now understand each other. They forgive easily and they stop getting hurt at everything as they decide to forge ahead in God.
The presence of good mentors and exposure to knowledge often helps to minimise issues in these stages.
We pray for you today, that whichever stage you find yourself, The wisdom of God will be available for you in Jesus name!
— with Nehemia Naume Tlhome Shika and Nickodemus Shaboka Jr..
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